Therapy for Young Adults
What a messy time teen years and early twenties can be! Not necessarily a negative, but a time of many colliding transitions. These transitions, from high school to university or the work world and from university to the world at large, can be overwhelming.
These years can be exciting as well as difficult. Your teen years are a time when mental health issues may arise leading to emotional struggles such as anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addictions and overall stress.
When you move from a familiar, structured world into one with many choices, you may feel both inspired and scared. While it is exciting to feel like there are so many possibilities, you can feel lost in that big sea.
There may be pressures from your family, friends and from society or media to be a certain kind of person or pursue a career you might not feel passionate about. Maybe you feel like sometimes you are wearing a “mask” to fit in. Maybe you feel you cannot be your true self in fear of being judged.
This is an important time in your life for relationship building—with friends, perhaps a romantic partner, and, most importantly, with yourself. It is a critical period for strengthening your own sense of identity.
Learning how to trust your voice despite what others are saying is fundamental to becoming a strong, centered, confident adult. Developing self compassion and being self-accepting even when you fail is important to build resilience and a healthy centre.
It may seem paradoxical, but once we can accept ourselves, our whole selves, then change is possible.
Together, we can work on establishing your true voice. If you are confused about what career path you want to follow, we can work to discover where your passions lie.
Therapy for Body Image and Self Esteem
Are you struggling with food? Do you criticize your body and treat it as your enemy? Are you constantly comparing to other people? Would you like to find a healthy way to be in your body and treat it with reverence?
What is your relationship with food? Is it entangled with other aspects of your life? A general feeling of discontent with your life, stress at work, within your relationship world? What is your relationship with your body? Do you feel at home in it?
Our self image in terms of how we see and treat our bodies can be fraught and messy. You may feel uncomfortable in your body or see your body as your enemy and not accept the body you have now. Paradoxically, it is only when we come to acceptance that we can change. Perhaps you want to change your eating habits or become stronger and more fit.
What are the stories you are telling yourself about your body?
My goal is to work with you to understand the underlying issues affecting your relationship to food and your body and how body image affects your sense of self worth. Struggles around eating are a symptom and not a cause.
Therapy Integrating Meditation and Mindfulness
Have you ever driven somewhere and suddenly realized you have no idea how you reached your destination? For much of our lives, we are on autopilot — our bodies are doing one thing and our minds are somewhere else. Our minds can be a messy place, a multitude of swirling thoughts vying for attention. The good news is that it’s possible to embrace the messiness in our heads simply by watching, witnessing, and giving analysis a rest.
Just as we work out and train our bodies, we have to work in and train our minds.
Is your mind like a bad neighbourhood, one that you want to run from? Since the relationship we have with ourselves is integral to the relationships we have with others, it is important to learn how to train our minds to focus, be present, and show up for our lives. Also, developing self compassion and refraining from feeding the inner critic will have a ripple effect in the way we relate to others whether it be an intimate partner, friends, or colleagues at work. Mindfulness teaches us these skills.
Relationships are what sustain us and give our lives meaning. If we are unfocused, not present, and reactive, we jeopardize our connections. Practicing mindfulness teaches us to pause, reflect, and respond rather than giving in to impulse. When we are present, when we listen, we are able to build rich, real, and honest connections.
Do you find your work relationships are sometimes strained? Impulsive emails and texts fly around and meaning is misconstrued. When we learn to communicate mindfully, really trying to understand what the other person is saying without simultaneously thinking of our own agenda and formulating our own response, we can shift tense and stressed relationships to relationships built on authenticity. In so doing, we develop smoother, more open communication, resulting in increased productivity and a healthier and happier work environment.