Change is the only constant so embrace it!

Kim TanzerUncategorized

“If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. … Read More

Welcome

Kim TanzerUncategorized

I believe in inner strengths and everyone’s ability to heal. Sometimes, life events can leave us feeling overwhelmed and stressed. They may fuel anxiety or depression, or they may lead to body image and eating issues, burn out, or overall stress. Seeking help is a positive first step. I offer a safe environment where we can work together, free of … Read More

Courage

Kim TanzerUncategorized

Strength in the face of pain or grief–a definition of courage. When I formally met L in my building, he was carrying a beautiful bunch of flowers.  They were for his girlfriend–just because.  Those are the best times to get flowers, or any gift–the just because times.  I had seen L around the building and noticed him because of his … Read More

Forgiveness

Kim TanzerUncategorized

I met up with a childhood friend yesterday–we are adults now– whatever that means.  Both of us have had our share of gut wrenching experiences that took us down–hard.  Mine stomped out my faith in life for several years until a few extraordinary practitioners helped me dig inside and find an ember that I struggled to keep lit and finally … Read More

Acceptance

Kim TanzerUncategorized

THE GUEST HOUSE This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing … Read More

Say YES to Positives!

Kim TanzerUncategorized

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the brain’s negativity bias.  I am now into my third read of Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson. After the first read, I tried an experiment. I challenged myself to catch those times I quickly shirked a compliment or barnacled myself to a negative thought and ran with it. Easy concept but in … Read More

Mistakes

Kim TanzerUncategorized

“It seems that the necessary thing to do is not to fear mistakes, to plunge in, to do the best that one can, hoping to learn enough from blunders to correct them eventually.
“ – Abraham Maslow As far back as I can remember, I feared, no was terrified of making mistakes.  My earliest memory is of breaking a light bulb … Read More

Letter to Matt Galloway – CBC Radio

Kim TanzerUncategorized

Dear Matt, Thank you for bringing to the public the critical issue of mental health on campuses. I was at the recent Town Hall meeting at The Rotman School of Business, featuring panelists addressing the crisis in mental health issues on campuses. Today, I am a psychotherapist (MSW RSW), yoga and mindfulness meditation teacher.  Years ago as an undergraduate I … Read More

one thing

Kim TanzerUncategorized

Many years back, stuck in traffic heading over the Golden Gate Bridge, we were all being funnelled into one lane and I let a car go in front of me.  The traffic was horrendous, the heat was oppressive and I was in a foul mood.    The bumper sticker read:  Having a great life wish I was there. That was … Read More

Arlo, Girl in Purple, Now

Kim TanzerUncategorized

I am hummingbird. Flitting and floating and hovering about, which, if I took a moment to think about, is probably why I became a yoga teacher, mindfulness group facilitator and psychotherapist. Focus, focus, focus are needed. Sometimes I spin in a perpetual pool of existentialist angst, with questions like, “Why am I on this planet?” “What is my purpose?” looming … Read More